Happiness Is Always An Inside Job
I think this quote perfectly sums up what I’m going to say.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around for a while, you could miss it.” – Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
It took me a long time to realise that maybe life wasn’t at all like the movies. There aren’t always happy endings with everything working out exactly the way you wanted it to. More so, the only thing we probably have in common with movies are the number of “plot twists” we are faced with everyday.
Right about now, you may be asking yourself: “What does this have to do with happiness?” I promise you, it will all make sense very soon.
With everything we face, the one thing we do have is a choice. It can go either of two ways. We can pout and wallow about things not going our way or we can pick ourselves up, brush off the negativity and add a positive spin to whatever it is that we are facing.
I know, I know. It’s easier said than done. I myself am in no way an expert at doing this; I so often slip into the old habit of wanting things to magically fix themselves. But we all know that although that notion would be ideal, sitting and waiting for things to happen just isn’t as fulfilling as going out there and doing it for yourself.
As a self professed stress head, the concept of enjoying every moment was something very new to me. Just 3 years ago, when I first started my university degree, I was stressing weeks in advance over assignments and projects, often even after they had been handed in. I always found myself wishing the whole experience would magically get better.
Although I knew the course was something I wanted, it was the way I approached the entire experience that made my first year tougher than it actually was. If you asked me at the time how my first year was, I would sum it up in one word – horrible. In retrospect, there were so many moments that I overlooked simply because I was too busy worrying about other things, which now seem so trivial.
So here’s where “the big shake up” occurred. As I was nearing the end of my first year, I contemplated if I should continue after having a roller coaster of a year. It took this reflection to realise that I got good grades and actually enjoyed what I was doing plus I made great friends along the way, who are now a big part of my life.
The problem was how I approached it all. I spent 80% of my time stressing about things I didn’t have control over and the rest worrying about things in the future.
So what I’m really trying to say is: Life is way too short for you to worry about little things. There is so much around us to make us happy which we so often ignore. We should instead strive to make all our experiences positive ones by simply choosing to look beyond the flaws.
And most importantly, accept that no story ever goes 100% according to plan –Always remember that the best stories have a few plot twists here and there, so embrace it and make the most of it!
I started off with a quote, so I think the perfect end to this would be another one just for good measure!
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama