Happiness & Gratitude
Life is such an incredible rollercoaster ride. The last year has been jam packed with peaks and troughs and has been a wild ride! I continually pinch myself.
In the last year I have the woman of my dreams as my wife, an exhilarating new pastime to enjoy with her (motorbike riding). Our humble home that is a peaceful sanctuary (that picture is from my phone only minutes from my door). And my businesses are heading in the right direction. These are just some of the innumerable blessings in my life that I am making a concerted effort to express my gratitude for.
To think that less than a fortnight ago I felt completely overwhelmed and physically ill from stress. I had allowed myself to be all consumed by situations that were beyond my control and full of lunacy.
I accept full responsibility for this slip. I had forgotten to take stock of all the blessings in my life that I have to be grateful for and express that gratitude. In not doing this, I had been directing my attention towards the lunacy, the negativity, which I am well aware: where attention goes, energy flows! (James Redfield)
In the thick of it my lovely wife sent me a message which really resonated and caused me to check what I was allowing myself to receive. Here it is:
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up to him and began insulting him.
“You have no right to be teaching others!!!” he shouted.
“You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!!”
Buddha was not upset by these insults. He just smiled. The man insulted him again and again but the only reaction he could get back from the Buddha was a smile and silence. Finally he stomped his feet and left cursing.
The disciples were feeling angry and one of the them couldn’t keep quiet and asked the Buddha, “Why didn’t you reply to the rude man?”
The Buddha replied, “If someone offers you a gift, and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong?”
“Of course to the person who brought the gift,” replied the disciple. “That is correct,” smiled the Buddha.
It is hard sometimes to stop and consciously choose not to accept a gift of negativity, but oh how liberating it is once you do!
I am writing this first as a reminder to myself, as I am solely responsible for manifesting all that is in my life. It is critical to decide exactly what I want and deliberately focus on them, then express gratitude for ALL the things, people and experiences that come into my life.
A suggestion I have for you is to establish an evening practice to do check in with what has filled your day and find all the things to be grateful for, and express that gratitude, feel it! Gratitude is the key.
I’ll end with a gratitude quote I love:
On a day when the wind is perfect, the sail just needs to open and the world is full of beauty. Today is such a day. ~ Rumi